Letters from Patricia Winsor Bennett to family 1961-1977

 157 9 A White Drive

Rantoul, Ill.

June 12th 1961

Dearest Ones, 

I feel so guilty about holding this up. Each day I have wanted to write, but it seemed I just haven't been able to find a free moment. It's Monday morning and although the work is up to the ceiling, I do want to get this on it's way in the afternoon mail. Please note the address above and put it in your address books. I have noticed that most of you don't have our current address. 

Since school ended the last week in May, things have been pretty hectic around here. It seems the washing has tripled and also the housework. Gordy and Teresa just can't stay away from the mud which is our back yard. Even though each child has his daily chore to do and isn't allowed to go outside until they are done, I find it takes till noon some days to see that each one has done his job. I don't think there's anything lazier than a child on summer vacation, do you agree? It would be much simpler for me to let them all go out and do everything myself--but they have to learn to help and do their share. It has been very hot, also and humid so that the afternoons are pretty uncomfortable. We have no air conditioning either, so I send the children over to the club pool close by every afternoon. It is very nice and the only thing they need to gain entrance is a pin with a number on it. There is a separate pool for the little ones and the shallow end is divided from the deep end. This is the only time, I believe, that I feel I'm getting something out of paying those club dues every month. 

For a couple of weeks I did nothing but mend and iron clothes because I thought we were going on leave this month. We find that, as usual, everyone else has taken leave and so Marsh has been left in charge and can't go until someone returns to relieve him. I wanted to go this month before it gets so terribly hot and also because the further along I get, the more trouble I have with my legs. Actually I don't look forward to taking the children anywhere. They aren't good travelers and putting them together in such close quarters for any length of time is pretty trying. They enjoy it once we get there, but it's the traveling I hate. If we stop often and don't try to drive too far each day, it would help, I think. We will probably try and take leave now the first part of July for maybe two weeks. We may go to Bryce and Zions then to Salt Lake or Yellowstone, then to Salt Lake. We are not sure yet. 

Some friends of ours who are being transferred to Spain sold us their Siamese Cat. Her name is Sang Kai and she is really a beautiful animal. We bred her to another Seal Point and hope to get a litter about the first of August. She is just a year old. We have all gotten our share of scratches, but she has settled down now and is much more gentle. They spoiled her so much that she will only eat Puss n' Boots Cat food. We just couldn't have a dog here so next best is a cat. Actually cats are much cleaner and easier to care for. 

Your vacation plans sound like so much fun, Lu and Wickie. It looks like we won't have enough leave to make it down your way. It would be too hard a trip for me to go down there and clear out to Utah. We are anxious to hear news of a new baby at your house, Bea and Ray. I have been worried about you, Bea--doing so much. Your new house sounds wonderful and we would surely love to visit you sometime. You know, not any of you except for Lu and Wickie have ever visited us. I hope some day we can be close enough where you can. Mip, I am sorry I missed getting a card off to you for your birthday. I hope it was very happy. I hope your plans for a house shape up very soon. You have waited such a long time. I guess Ken will be gone when this gets around his way. I'll have to drop him a line to wish him well on his trip.  We hope that your siege of colds didn't last too long, Jan and that you are all well. Polly, by now you all must be sweltering too. I remember so vividly the enjoyable summers I spent with you and Bea. It doesn't seem so long ago that I was young and carefree. How fast the years do go. I will enclose a note to you, Mom and Dad. 

Much love to all, Pat, Marsh and children. 

Monday, July 31, 1961

Dearest Mom and Dad, 

We were so happy to hear from you. Yes, we finally have the R.R. - just arrived Friday, but I'd like to hold it another day or two till Marsh reads it. He wasn't notified that he was to leave on a flight this morning and rushed home from work to get his bag packed. The other pilot was waiting for him over at the field. He should be back tomorrow night. I'm glad he went because he didn't get any flying pay for last month. 

You will be relieved to know that I have an air conditioner. We took the kids to the county fair Saturday over at Champagne, then went to Sears and bought the air conditioner. Marsh stayed up till 2 am getting it installed in the living room window. It is supposed to cool 5 rooms but because of the high ceiling in the living room it does a good job for the L. room & kitchen and makes the basement quite comfortable, but the bedrooms, being upstairs, are still hot. I intend to get a portable fan to use up there. Also it de-humidifies the house considerably. Before, it was like sitting in a steam bath. We have had a few comfortable rainy days since our return, but the last week has been unbearably hot and humid --up to 95% humidity. I shall be able to accomplish the tasks I have ahead before the baby arrives now. As for the chair - that will have to wait awhile. 

Most of my time since our return has been spent cleaning and rearranging drawers & closets and keeping dental and doctor appointments. The eye specialist had Gordon scheduled to enter the hospital in the morning for his eye operation to be done Wednesday morning, but he became very ill yesterday and we had to take him over to the doctor. Marsh & I had been to the afternoon session of district conference over in Champagne and afterwards Marsh had to wait for two hours to see the district President who interviewed him for a position on the district council. I felt uneasy because I didn't like leaving the children for so long because Kathy had been ill with a temp & sore throat from the afternoon before. When we got home Gordy was lying on the floor rolling in pain- his lower abdomen -and had a temp of 101 degrees. We thought he might have appendicitis. The doctor diagnosed it as an infection of the lymph glands in the abdomen due to a possible strep throat. His throat & ear were a deep red.  He had been ill with the same symptoms as Kathy had last week & then seemed to be better. Anyway he had one penicillin shot & goes back for another today and tomorrow -so the operation is off for this week. 

Just after we returned Laura had a temperature & sore throat, followed by Teresa, then Gordy, then Kathy. So they probably all had the same thing only it hit Gordy harder. 

You may not have heard about the accident marsh's mother suffered a few days after we left. She was helping Dad Bennett by climbing up as he handed her a bucket of apricots from the tree and she fell and broke her knee. It was very serious because it was shattered and she had to have a special operation to put the pieces back together. Also has to wear a cast from the hip to toe. It was such a shock to hear of it after we had had such a pleasant visit.

We enjoyed our short visit with you so very much and hope you have recuperated by now. I still wanted to stay just a little longer- it was a flying trip, wasn't it? We just found out last week that Marsh is scheduled again to attend that school out in Compton, California for two weeks. - If they don't cancel it, he will leave next weekend. I will give him a list of names & addresses. Bea's & Ray's, Uncle Rulon & Aunt Viola - Would you give me Bea's new address again - I don't have it or is she still at the old one? Her RR letter said they wouldn't move for a while yet but her letter was written July 9th. If Marsh drives out, he can stop & get it from you. He hasn't decided whether to fly or not. There is a possibility he won't even go - that's the Air Force for you always indefinite. 

I received the package, thank you - but those were Marilyn's girl's socks & the Mable Harmon book is yours. You gave me one several years ago. I will send or bring it back sometime. Enclosed is a check and thank you again for all your trouble. 

The paintings look lovely in my living room & really add a lot to it. 

Why don't you include this in the R.R. when it comes and I'll just write a note to go with it this time. 

We hope this finds you both well and surviving the hot spell. May the Lord continue to bless and keep you.

All my love, Pat

P.S. Gordy is feeling much better this afternoon. I just took him over for his shot & to talk to the Doctor. He postponed the operation until later this month. He is going on leave so I don't know when it will be. For the benefit of the family - Gordy has been wearing glasses for 2 months & an eye patch for one month to correct one weak eye which has a tendency to cross. The operation will correct this. 

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Aug. 3, 1961

Dearest One and All 

I have held the R.R. a few days for Marsh to read and in the meantime I wrote to Mom and Dad because I knew they were anxious to receive it/ They had asked about whether we had received it before we left for Utah. I have asked them to enclose my letter rather than for me to write the same thing all over again. 

We enjoyed hearing from each of you. You must have had a lovely time on your vacation, Lu & Wickie. We hope we can come down and see you sometime, but it is quite a distance, not as far as Utah of course. We had such a nice visit with Mom & Dad, but 10 days just isn't long enough to go that far. I was pretty well exhausted after driving straight through. I hit a deer just a couple of hours before we arrived in S.L. about 10 pm near Park City and it caused $100 damage to the fender & head light. We wasted 2 precious days having the car fixed so didn't have the use of it to visit friends. The only friends we saw were Magre Beth & Don Stevens and Sister Mitchell up in Logan. She is the wife of Marsh's former mission president & he was killed in his private plane a year ago Christmas time. He ran into the side of a mountain just a short distance from his home - just like Harold Bowman's accident. He left 6 children, one of them married & living in Compton, Calif. and Sister Mitchell is running the Mitchell Motel which is the business he left. It has been terribly hard but she is doing very well now. They have a lovely swimming pool and so Marsh & the children went in for awhile although our time was limited. Mom was with us and it was such a hot day. We took a look at the re-vamped Castle and made us heartsick to see it so changed. 

We had such wonderful food and delicious fruit while we were home that I was afraid I had gained too much weight - instead when I went to the OB clinic for my check-up, I had lost a pound. The children enjoyed seeing their grandparents & sleeping out on the deck under the stars each night. 

Since our return I have had a time keeping the children busy. I just found out that the youth center here on the base has a summer program for children. So I am going to enroll them in a cooking school & sent Kathy & Laura to a 3 day camp over at a lake. 

Marsh is still uncertain about the school in Compton, which starts Monday the 7th. They are cutting the orders now but it is too late for him to drive out. He wanted to have a car to get around and see people. He especially wants to get over to see you, Bea & Ray. I have meant to write and congratulate you on your new little son. I know how happy and proud you are. I hope that with all this moving, you will still be able to regain your strength, Bea. I'm glad you have some help - you really need it. 

Mip, would you tell me something about your work? I am behind the times on just what your job is, etc. 

Polly, you always write such nice comments in your letter - I wish I could do as well. I'm in too much of a hurry. 

Jan, so sorry you have had such a time with Lani and her health. It can certainly wear you down fast. I don't really have the temperament either, to have a large family, but as I look back now - I think it was a lot harder when I just had two. I guess experience has made me more efficient and relaxed than I used to be. I don't believe that one more will make too much difference except for the first year. Once that is over things will go along nicely again. I am really very grateful for each one of them. 

I hope that this finds you home again after a grand trip, Ken. Let us know all about it - 

All our love, 

Pat & family

June 30, 1966

Dearest family, 

Here we are in S.L. and still trying to get settled. I arrived in pretty fair shape after driving the station wagon & Marsh the truck from Illinois. We left on May 31st & arrived the 4th of June. It took us so long because we had to stop on account of me about every two hours. Four slept in our homemade camper double decker style I three of us in the station wagon. 

The house is very nice, a bit smaller than I anticipated, but adequate. The kitchen is the best part of it for me, the huge garage for Marsh. The stairs are a bit of a trial, the utility -ironing room being in the basement. 

Marsh went to work right away - for his sister's husband, Russell Romney, who has invented some unusual aids for the medical world. He is just moving into a new building & has a contract to build a machine for making surgical masks. Marsh has so far been doing the carpentry work & running errands. He doesn't know if he will continue on with Russ. It depends on the financial end of course. It really takes a lot to get started in a manufacturing business of that kind. What Russ really needs is a good manager & business man. 

We're sorry for you Jan, Polly & anyone else who is suffering with the hay fever. It really got to Marsh & Laura this year, but the filtered air in this home has saved them a lot of misery at least while they are inside. We really are out in the sticks with farms & corrals of horses all around. At the same time, though, I feel fenced in from it all with an enclosed yard & busy traffic going by. 

I was able to have Ken over for a day & we had a nice visit in spite of demands of small children & teenagers It's nice to be able to pick up the phone & have a little chat with the folks every so often. I'm afraid I'm not physically up to chasing back & forth places - just make it to the grocery & that wears me out. 

Bea & Ray, your really lead the busy life- jaunts to Hawaii & now a wedding - how fast they grow up & are gone. I wish so much I could be there. Mike is very close to my heart. Seems like only yesterday he & Dennis were sitting on my lap. 

We'll be so glad to see you Lu & family - Wish we could see the rest of you this summer. Well, at least the prospects are good for my getting a visit much oftener from my family now that we're back here in S.L. 

Everyone of us sends our love to each of you-

Love, Pat

November 29, 1967

Dearest Brothers and Sisters, 

I am making two carbons of this so that all of you can receive this news more speedily. Polly, will you send this on to Mip, Bea to Ken, and Lu just keep it. 

Since I talked to you on the phone on Thanksgiving, Bea and Polly ad later to Polly, Sunday night Mom seemed much better. She had had this heavy chest cold for some time, had gotten over it, we thought, then the day before Thanksgiving it came back again, only worse. Her voice never had gotten back to normal, though, so Dr. Ershler sent her to a throat specialist, but he found nothing wrong -just advised steam. Sunday night I talked to Polly again and told her Mom was better. She had advised putting Mom in the hospital for a few days to really enable her to recuperate, but Mom objected quite strongly and said she would stay right in bed (which she didn't do) Anyway, she needed to be able to stay in bed and be waited on, but she couldn't stand the noise and confusion out here at my place. Monday Mom called me and said she felt worse again and had a very deep cough and her chest hurt, so I took her out here to Valley West Hospital (across the street from Dad) under Dr. Brasher's care. (He is dad's Doctor also). So far I haven't gotten a diagnosis yet. I'll stop right here and see if he is in his office yet. The doctor isn't in his office on Wednesdays so I called Mom and thought maybe she might know something but she said he was evasive. I do know that she is feeling better and starting to eat again and her cold is breaking up too. Dr. Martin, the orthopedic specialist for her back problem was in to see her toe.

I have talked to Dr. Brasher about Daddy's condition too. He feels there is a rapid decline. He can no longer feed himself, sleeps most of the time, his words are almost inaudible, and he has little control of his bladder. He has had at least two convulsions that we know of just recently. When I ask him how he feels, he always says "First rate." And he still has that twinkle and ready smile. The thing he enjoys the most is having me read a letter from you. 

Thank you all for your letters and concern. There really isn't too much I can do for the folks, but try to give them a little cheer. I'm just glad I was able to be here when they have needed someone so much. 

They both send you all their love. 

Love to each of you, 

Pat

P.S. A late Happy Birthday, Lu and Wickie. Mom wanted to get a card off to you Wickie, but was unable to and wanted you to know she was thinking of you. 

Feb 16, 1969

Dearest Polly, Mip and Lu, 

Ken and Bea have phoned so they know the situation. I am sorry not to have written before, but I guess you have heard from Mom pretty regularly. Just the past few weeks have brought a great many problems. You know that Mom had been advised to do a great deal of walking, which she has done for some time. This advice from Dr. Martin, the Orthopedic specialist who has cared for her since her back injury. One day, Mom had been to see him and couldn't get a bus, so she just walked all the way home and could hardly make it. ever since she has been in great pain. The Doctor was evasive and it was some time before I was able to find out just what the trouble was. He wouldn't tell Mom. The cartilage in her hip where the leg joins is completely gone. There is bone rubbing against bone when she walks. So the doctor advised her to stay off her feet and take aspirin (which she can't take) . That's all he told her. After I talked to him, he advised a week of rest and physical therapy in the hospital, then left town. So Mom went to St. Marks with another doctor (taking Martins place) looking in on her.  But she was so miserable in the hospital, got little rest, no sleep at night and said the therapy made her worse. It was very depressing for her to be among others who were suffering, having a bathroom down the hall and no telephone. I think a doctor ought to think twice about sending a patient to those conditions. So I brought her back to her apartment yesterday. She was released without any advice as to what to do about the continuous pain. I did find out Dr. Martin considered himself fired and is off the case. I guess Mom had called him and chewed him out pretty good. Also she wanted him to bring in Dr. Okleberry (an experienced Orthopedic specialist) for consultation and I guess that really upset him. All this is just found out tonight. After a neighbor looked in on her today and found her in such pain he brought her a Darvon capsule which erased her pain all afternoon. I had asked her yesterday if she couldn't take those and she didn't know. Finally I was able to find out they are alright for her to take. So at least she will sleep tonight until I can get over there tomorrow. I want to get a long cord for her phone so she can put it by her bed. Also a walker for her to use. Nan took her dinner to her today and I shall fix some meals that she will be able to heat up. She has good neighbors, but I really feel that unless she improves, she won't be able to care for herself any longer. I will add a postscript after I find out from Dr. Cowan when he will do the surgery to remover her little finger. I have already talked to the Bonneville Convalescent Home about her coming there after the surgery. 

I have been terribly busy. I have started in business for myself with Bestline Products. It means meeting several times a week, door to door selling and recruiting new members. I enjoy it very much, but am finding it difficult to work everything in. I can earn as much as I want to and work on my own time. 

We have been greatly concerned over Jim's accident with his hand and pray that both of you will have the courage to accept whatever has to be. You have been in my prayers constantly.

Kathy's change to Granger High has brought about a change in her. She is finding out how rewarding high school can be. 

The Priesthood administered to Mom & she has been free of pain since. Went to Cowan's office, also called - unable to pin him down but will let you know when mom enters hospital.  The R.R. arrived and I brought it down here to read to Mom when she awakens. 

Much love to all, 

Pat

April 23, 1971

Dearest Family, 

The RR is here and, instead of sending one letter, I am carboning a copy for each of you. I have talked with Bea and she has talked to Polly and Polly called back when I wasn't here and talked to Mom. They have decided to come up on the 2nd or 3rd of May to help dismantle Mom's apartment. So much has happened this past month and so fast, my head is whirling a little. Mom has been having a real struggle to do things for herself and it just got to be too much. Her lameness shifted to her right side and she was in so much pain and couldn't walk. Frank Ashdown put her under the care of Dr. Ward up at University Medical Center, a specialist in Arthritis, and he suggested physical therapy which Mom took up at L.D.S. hospital. But the more she did the exercises, the more severe the pain became. Then on top of everything else, her heart started acting up and she was afraid to go to bed at night. When Dr. Ershler examined her a week ago, he told her and me that she couldn't live alone any more -that someone would have to live with her or she would have to live with someone. The only thing to do was to bring her out here with me for the time being. The Relief Society had lined up someone to come in for an hour a day, but even so, that just wouldn't give her enough help. She needs someone with her to see that she eats properly, to administer the right medication at the right time, in other words to free her of the worry of keeping a home and all that goes with it. I have seen a big improvement in a week's time and when I took her back to dr. Ershler last Tuesday, her electro-cardiogram had quieted down. She will continue on daily medication for her heart. 

I have fixed up a room for her complete with typewriter, genealogy, and her personal things, even paintings. she has her chair, T.V. and is very comfortable. So what I want to say is that she will be fine for the time being if you, Bea and Polly, want to wait until Marilu's wedding to come up. You decide, of course, but I haven't wanted to do anything definite till I was able to confer with the rest of the family. If you think it would be possible to find a person who would be able to care for her in her own place, we will consider that. But such a person would be very hard to find even through the Relief Society Social Services. The other alternative would be to have her spend a few months with perhaps Polly, Bea and I, alternating --that is if she is able to travel. It would be preferable for her to be in the milder climate during the winter. This is just speculation. If we do dismantle the apartment right away, then we will have the problem of everyone getting the pieces and things they want to take. I may be able to store some things, but it will take some arranging. 

You must all be prepared for a great change in Mom. She is not always herself these days and is slowing down rapidly in her ability to remember things. This is a great worry to her. I have been able to reassure her that we all love her and will look after her now. 

I have been having a great upheaval in my personal life also. Bea and Ray were concerned about whether I would be able to hold up Okay. So far, so good. Marsh was fired the end of March and he has been putting together a corporation for the purpose of providing air transportation for executive companies. He has worked out a beautiful plan and if it comes off, it will be the first time anything like this has been done in Utah. He has the financial backing and support of some very influential people, including Bobby Walker of the Federal Aviation Agency, Bob Thermone, the husband of Governor Rampton's secretary, Bruce Studki, who is putting up the money and has taken over Dixie Airlines and quite a few others. Terracor may not survive, but it has been a stepping stone so to speak. This has got to work!

Kathy is planning to be married. Will tell you all about that later. Must get this in the mail. Chris has tonsillitis and Teresa is having a boy-girl Birthday party tonight. On top of that my driver's license expired yesterday, my Birthday. Marsh took me to a lovely French restaurant for the most delicious meal I have had since France. Thanks for your letters, Jan and Lu and Wickie.

Lots of love, 

Pat

Friday, Oct 15, 1971

Dearest Ones, It's good this morning to have the house so quiet. Chris has been out of school four days with a bad cold. Laura was home yesterday ill with a cold too. She went back to work today. Gordon was suspended from school (for not attending his classes) about a month ago. I thought everything was all squared away for him to attend the Western Area Vocational School in Granger, but all of a sudden Gord changed his mind and wouldn't go. They required that he be in attendance every day and also get an afternoon job. He would receive 7 credits altogether. It is a very nice place, small (3 instructors). There is a shop where he could work on his motorcycle and get credit for it. Instead, he thinks he wants to go to Utah Technical College. He has such a fine mind and school was always so easy for him. When a boy never has a father around, it's hard for a mother to take his place. 

Marsh took a job flying for Aerographics. They do aerial photography and make maps from the photos. They had another pilot that they were going to let go last July and they had Marsh all lined up for the job then. But then they decided to keep him on and that was a great mistake because Marsh has been making up for his failures ever since. He has been gone to Idaho, Colorado, Arizona, New Mexico, and Texas since he started with them a month ago. He has been home a total of 5 or 6 nights in all that time, overnight only. He hasn't had a day off and I daresay he wouldn't take one if they gave it to him. This is the first day he has been in town and he went up to the office for the day. He will do drafting when he's not flying. The reason for the push is that they have a government contract they will lose if the maps don't get finished. Marsh has run out of fuel twice and coasted in for landings and has to fly at 22,000 feet with oxygen. The flying is tedious and nerve wracking -- has to keep the plane absolutely level and on a straight course. You can imagine what kind of shape he's in when he comes home. I just can't imagine him being able to keep going on this kind of a job indefinitely.

We talked with Bea and Ray on the phone last night. They will be flying up on Wednesday. We had the nicest visit with their family we have ever had because they stayed right here at the house--even Colleen and Sue. That was about the first part of September. Everyone enjoyed the corn on the cob, tomatoes and the fish that Ray and the boys caught. 

Mom and I have talked also with Polly, Jim and Mip over the phone. It's very hard for me to find time to write so hope you'll forgive. Kathy should be sending some thank you notes soon, but I keep forgetting to give her addresses. 

Teresa just returned from a week in California (Pomona, I think). She went down with her best friend, Floorie for a cousin's wedding. Those two gals do everything together. They take guitar lessons and play and sing together quite a bit. Teresa was able to go because they had two days of Teacher's Convention, so she only missed 3 days of school altogether. I'm sorry she couldn't go to see Ken and Rileys, but she didn't have any transportation. 

Colleen's letter was very enlightening and I appreciated reading it. She had a great deal of courage to undertake such an adventure. None of us really knows what we are capable of doing till we're put to the test, right? 

After Mom had her yearly physical the doctor decided she should go in the hospital for a curetment. I think the bleeding was a result of the estrogen she has been taking for so long. Yesterday I talked with the doctor and he said that he would have received an immediate report if there had been any malignancy. It wasn't until I brought her home that she mentioned to me about Sister Butler being in the same room with her. I didn't even know it. Mom said she was out of her head most of the time and recognized her briefly. Yesterday I took Mom to Relief Society. We went a week ago to the opening social and luncheon. The speaker was the former Mrs. America, Joan Fisher, an absolutely radiant and captivating person. But I'm afraid that any outing is getting to be too much for Mother. She had to spend the rest of the day in bed. She has no strength or appetite -- is down to 115 pounds. She has finished up some of her ocean paintings and a few previous ones and I took her down to have them framed. This seemed to cheer her some. It is hard to know what to do to cheer her up-- she is so depressed constantly. It worries her that her memory fails her too. 

Let me take the opportunity of thanking you all for the birthday greetings and gifts for Mother. She enjoyed them so much. 

Guess I'd better get some house cleaning done today for sure. Haven't done a thing all week but run errands. 

Love you all so much, 

Pat

Lu-Wish Gord would decide to work towards a career in Park Service. He loves the out of doors so much. He reminds me of you and Dad. 

March 1 1972

Dearest Family 

Here it is March already and it doesn't seem possible that it was the first part of January that I was down at Bea's. Before You know it Spring will be here. 

I'm so glad you are getting your much needed rain, Polly and Jim,  I hope this year you will be able to solve your water problems. I would still love to see the ocean during a storm --maybe some day. 

We'll be looking forward to the wedding in June, Lu & Wickie. Will you be going right back as you did before for a reception in Atlanta? I hope your back is feeling better, Mip. Mine went out on me again, unpredictable, and it slows me down. 

You sound very happy and contented these days, Jan & Joe. Tell Lani that Teresa plays guitar too - at least she is studying. She and her girl friend sang and played their guitars in the school assembly a couple of weeks ago. 

I enjoyed my visit with you, Bea & Ray, so much and seeing all the family. It was nice getting acquainted with Mike & Dennis' family. Maybe one of these days I'll be able to get down there with some of my family. I would like to this summer if we start getting ahead a little, but Marsh hasn't had any flying since last November. He does drafting for the company but it pays only half of our monthly expenses. He has several assignments, but the weather was bad - then when it cleared up, the camera broke down and had to be sent to New York for repairs. 

Ken, I hope you are able to keep up with your busy life and are taking care of yourself. It was so good to see you. I'm glad Mom has been able to come over occasionally. 

Mom, I guess you're the only one I've been keeping in touch with. I'm glad you're having a good stay there. Live is certainly been more interesting for you there. I'm afraid we lead a rather uneventful and boring life here -- busy and hectic but dull. Guess I'm spoiled with all the vacations I've been having. I guess I would really stagnate if I didn't have Relief Society and the Blazer A boys to keep up with plus my daily chauffeuring Gordon back and forth. 

Love to all, 

Pat

Sat. May 27, 1972

Dearest Wickie & Lu, 

Thank you so much for the birthday card. I'm sorry I have been so neglectful of remembering yours. 

We appreciate the invitation for the wedding breakfast & thank you. Marsh is flying a lot these days and is gone most of the time -- so we'll have to wait and see if he is here. Are you inviting anyone to the ceremony? I don't have a Temple recommend, but could try to get one. Did you want Mom to come? She will be arriving on Memorial Day (Monday). I am really nervous about her coming. So many things have kept me running lately that I haven't done half the preparatory things I had planned to do -- like looking around at various rest homes. Polly is certain that she should go to one. Bea was uncertain -- and I am very much afraid it will be difficult to find one to please her. The only reason she is still with us is that she has had lots of "tender loving care." I couldn't bear to see her wither away in a home. The burden of it all is too much for me -so I will wait till you come, Lu. Kathy's baby is due June 11th. 

All my love, Pat. 

Sat. Aug 19th, 1972

Dearest Lu & Wickie, 

Just a note to let you know how things are --Thanks so much for the recopies, Wickie. I haven't had a chance to try them yet. 

Ken popped in unexpectedly on Thursday and will be here 'till Monday. He is so depressed all the time, he depresses Mom and leaves her in a pretty bad state. I don't know what to do to help him. He just can't seem to get on top of his problems. All of his weight is back again & I'm sure this doesn't help any. Wid Tingey is here from Connecticut which is the main reason Ken made the trip up. We saw him last night.

Mom has really been doing well, I think. She walks several blocks every day & even goes up to Z.C.M.I. One time, about three or more weeks ago, she was up at the Art Frame store & blacked out & fell and hit her head, but the doctor said she was okay. No trouble of that kind since. 

I have all the papers for the Trust agreement signed & taken care of so that is one less worry. 

I wish Mom weren't so wrapped up in her personal possessions. She forgets what she has given to us and constantly begrudges the loss of her things -- not wishing anyone to have them. It's hard on me because she sees everything here in my home that was hers (and still is)  I would just as soon crate everything up & rent storage or sell it as to have her keep telling the children behind my back that she never gave that to anyone or this to anyone. Ken found the five silver mugs in my cupboard & told me that one was to go to each of us --"Dad said". I said I thought they should remain in a set & we thought that one had been lost --but he said he had the sixth one & that he only wanted one. I want none of this bickering over things & would just as soon have everyone say here & now what they want & take it. So if there is anything special that you would like to have, please tell me, okay? The one thing I'm not going to do is ship stuff. When the family comes to visit Mom, they can take what they want & ship it themselves. Enough said --Marsh has been away 90% of the summer --but hasn't had much good flying weather. 

Well, Dears -- bye for now. 

All my love, 

Pat

Monday AM, Sept 25, 1972

Dearest Lu & Wickie, 

I am sitting here with Mom in her room as I write this. She is sleeping comfortably after a very trying day yesterday. Sat. night she became ill during the night, but I didn't receive word until I returned from Sunday School yesterday. The nurse told me over the phone that her blood pressure was very high & her pulse was slow & weak. She had nausea & vomiting & a severe headache, also chest pain. When I was unable to reach Dr. Ershler (who was out of town until late last night) or his associate, Dr. Altman, I called an ambulance to take her to L.D.S. Hospital Emergency. After a series of tests & my pleading with them to give her some medication to relieve her, they could find nothing to indicate she should be admitted. She was there from noon until 5 before Dr. Altman was located and then he wouldn't even come & look at her --just gave instruction over the phone. They didn't give her any medication until 7:30 - then told me to take her home. By that time I was so angry & upset & worn out I didn't know what to do. Marsh has been gone for 2 1/2 weeks, so I called Bro. Huffner at the home & he came & helped me get her back home in bed (at the Stake Home). Sister Bybee went out to her son's for the night so I slept in her bed. I was wakeful, though, so I could get up & tend to Mother. She had a pretty good night & is feeling quite a bit better. I think the turning point came when I called Bro. Brossard & an old friend of Mother's from Mexico, Moroni (last name?) who is Ensign Stake Patriarch. They gave her a powerful blessing & rebuked the adversary to leave her in peace. The pain left her after that. I'll try & keep you posted. We think of you & miss you. 

Love to all, 

Pat

Fri 10/13/72

Dearest family, 

Thanks so much for all your cards & letters to Mom. She has appreciated the extra effort on your part to let her know of your concern. I have left the RR with Mom for her to take her time enjoying it.

To clarify things: She is recovering from a slight stroke which has affected her balance, walking & perhaps hearing. Mother has been at the Temple Gardens Convalescent Home for over a week & she has physical therapy every day. She now uses a special cane shaped like this (drawing) Sort of crooked- and this helps her to maintain balance. If she feels herself falling, she looks straight ahead & gets her balance again. There is every possibility that she will eventually be able to return to the Stake Home. In the meantime, Lu & I moved her things out- back to my place. Lu had a nice visit with Mom & enjoyed Conference too. I am taking it a day at a time & will make decisions as they come up. 

This past month I have put over 1,000 miles on my car just going back & forth -- so you can see I haven't been in one place very long. That seems to be the one thing I'm counted on for the most - chauffeuring - & sometimes I just wish I could stay at home for one whole day. Monday I made 4 round trips to town & back. I had taken a bad cold over the weekend - so was real exhausted on Tuesday. I had to get through Primary & preparations for a parents program Wed. night. Somehow I made it, & the boys did great. It was Bruce's birthday on Tuesday also & he received his aero-of-light award in Webelos last night at the Pack meeting. So now he is in boy scouts. 

Marsh has been gone this time for 11 days Laura left a week ago for Arizona where she plans on living for 6 months. 

Kathy's baby girl is growing so cute & fat. Gusty is 4 months old now. 

Your trip to Hawaii sounded marvelous, Mip & Mary. So glad you were able to go. I hope you're feeling good again Bea & Ray - you too, Ken. I have talked with you all by phone so won't comment any more now. 

Love always, 

Pat 

P.S. So glad you could get over to Jan & Joes for a visit, Polly & Jim. 

Fri. Dec. 8, 1972

Dearest Family 

It has been so hard this time to find a minute to sit down & get this off. A week ago the Rileys arrived for the open house held last Saturday. It was very lovely & enjoyed by all. Bea & Ray & Sue were so grateful for all you did to help at the Wedding, Polly & Jim. It made me think of all you did for me when I got married. 

In spite of their busy schedule, I had a real nice visit with Bea & Ray & Bruce enjoyed Jim & Scott. Mother had a good time at the open house & a nice visit with Bea. She had a dizzy spell on Monday but has been well since then. She is getting ready to paint again. I am going to take her to the La Dells dinner on Tuesday evening (Ex-Primary Board members). 

Marsh didn't make it back from Kansas for the open house & still isn't back. He has been on his way since Sunday - starting out, going back, getting to Nebraska, then night before last to Rock Springs, Wyo. where he still is waiting for the weather to clear. His plane has no de-icers & half the radio equipment doesn't work. He said the heater was out & it got to 20 below in the airplane. He says that is the last time he ever will take that lousy airplane out. They will have to get him a decent one or he is quitting. He was gone 45 days before he made it home the last time. 

It is really snowing today and drifting across the driveway. How I hate the winter & the constant digging out & getting stuck. 

Well I hope you all have a lovely & enjoyable Christmas. 

Love from all, 

Pat & family. 

Dec. 28, 1972

Dearest Lu & Wickie, 

Our thanks to you for remembering us as always with the chocolates. Mom has enjoyed them too. Forgive our neglecting you this year. It has been a difficult time for us--Marsh has been gone so much & we have had so much flu & other sickness since before Thanksgiving. 

While I was out shopping Saturday, the Stake Home tried to reach me - When I got home & talked to them I was told to come & get Mom at once & bring her home with me. So Marsh & I packed some of her things & brought her home & put her up in her old room. (now Teresa's) She has really gone down hill mentally. Whether she had another stroke, no one knows but she is unable to find direction & gets completely turned around. She was going into other rooms & getting lost. Here I have to show her where the bathroom is -where her chair is- bed is, etc., etc. She carries on a conversation but her memory doesn't least more than a minute. She needs help in finding her glasses, toothbrush, in her dressing & so on. In short, she will not be able to return to the Stake Home. I have had my hands tied with the Christmas rush & the mess that follows- you know what I mean. I haven't wanted to spoil Laura's visit by going out looking for another home for Mom. If the blizzard lets up, Laura will leave by plane tomorrow for Phoenix. It has been so good to see her. She has matured a great deal & is really the independent young lady. She works at the Motorola factory. 

Kathy & her family have been over a couple of times & Sue & Frank came to see Mom today. She always perks up when her loved ones are around. But she doesn't understand why the rest of her children can't drop in & see her too. When I looked in on her this morning, she thought I was Bea. 

It is so heart-breaking for me to see her this way. Why can't the Lord release her? There is no joy living that way. She says it's like she isn't really alive, just in limbo. 

Well-we love you-and hope you had a wonderful Christmas. Tell Mark & JoAnne thanks for remembering us with a card. 

All my love, Pat

P.S. Dad would be so happy. His Mt. Fuel stock which he bought at $10 a share is worth about $3,200.00. I have been advised to sell while it is so high. Hope that will be best. 

P.S.S. I talked to you, Wickie, this A.M & I may talk to you, Lu before you receive this. So much has happened today- Mom's stroke early this morning- and 18 inch snowfall with a blizzard & 8 foot drifts. The Bishop coming to administer to her- the Bybell's helping me get her to the hospital (University) through the stalled traffic in their 4 wheel drive truck. By the time we reached the hospital, Mom was aware of me & could talk a little and say her own name. She is having the best of care, but I am still unable to drive anywhere. Laura's flight was cancelled, but she is going back to Phoenix in the morning. I must move Mom's things again out of the S.L.S Home. 

Talked to the lawyer & found out he has the Mt. Fuel stock certificates which were not included in the Trust agreement - so it is necessary for me to get Mom's X or signature on them. This has upset me also. I am so tired of trying to do it all. Wish me luck & pray that Mom will not have to live much longer in this condition. She deserves to rest now. 

Love, Pat

Feb 15, 1973

Dearest Family,

I have held this up because I had hoped that somehow Mother would be alert enough to comprehend that I had the R.R. and was reading it to her. When I talked to Polly Sunday night, I told her it had been so long since Mother had responded or shown any recognition of what I was saying to her, that I was afraid she never would again. But yesterday Kathy, Gusty & I went to see her and she was wide awake and really loved seeing the baby. I asked her if she wanted me to read her the R.R. and she said, "oh, my, yes." I don't know how much she understood, but I could see that she was straining to comprehend it. I had taken the R.R. and the cards and letters hoping I could read them to her, but she scarcely knew I was there and several times I wasn't able to awaken her at all. They try to get her up sitting in a chair at meal time, but she is so weak, she has to stay in bed most of the time. I had been worried also about a bed sore on her tail bone, but it is healing now. Her poor little body is so wasted and thin. It is a blessing, though that she sleeps most of the time. Let us all pray that she doesn't have to linger on this way. I know that she must have had another stroke because of the decided change -one day she was able to walk - then her legs gave out from under her & she hasn't walked since. That was about the middle of January. 

Yesterday Kathy went to work day and the luncheon at Relief Society. We made Mother a pretty red velvet Valentine Plaque. She was holding it when we left. Kathy & Pat have been house hunting in earnest ever since their landlord raised their rent. (more than double). This friend of ours, who was the real estate agent who sold us our home, was able to find them a real nice 3 bedroom home on a half acre out at Riverton. They have fruit trees, a chicken coop with chickens, plenty of room to raise a beef & garden- just what they were looking for. 

In the meantime, I am trying to catch up, but never do, before going in for surgery-a hysterectomy. I have been hesitant to go until Kathy & Pat found their house, because Kathy is going to stay & take care of the family & me when I get home. Also, I have worried that Mother would need me or something might happen to her while I was in the hospital or convalescing. 

Thanks for all the cards & letters - They are appreciated so much. Since I have talked with most of you on the phone I won't try to answer them just now, but I want you to know I am thinking of each one of you and hope that everyone is fine. 

I love you all - take care, 

Pat

(Beatrice Snow Winsor passed away on October 31st 1973)

July 26th 1974

Dearest Brothers and Sisters, 

Enclosed is $200.00 for each of you from the balance in Mom's savings account. I paid the lawyer $ 125.00 for the minimum of services I needed from him. Most everything else I have been able to do myself. I am sorry I am taking so long to get it to you. I left a balance of $268.00 to take care of any added expense in putting through the Shoal Creek property into probate. Evidently Dad never put it in Mother's name and at the time of his death it wasn't worth much. Now it has increased in value, so I must go down there and investigate or have someone do it for me. The State Savings certificate which is worth $1,343,61 I will divide and send to you at the end of the term, September 18th. I still have yet to divide the Mountain Fuel Stock and the Wellington Fund. If you have any questions please feel free to ask. 

Bea and Ray have been up for a visit and we were able to get together with them briefly. Things are really hectic with Laura's wedding less than two weeks away. Colleen designed the invitation and it is still at the printers, so I'm worried. But it was so much more special having Colleen do it. I will let you know how it all turns out. Wish you could all come for the wedding. 

Lots of love, 

Pat

P.S. Let me know that you receive the check 0kay. 

We got your card - how nice you could have a trip - Thanks --

March 14th 1975

Dearest Lu &Wickie, Rather than repeat myself, I made a carbon to send you. Wayne is such a credit to you and a son to be proud of.  I know how much you wanted to be here with him at this special time. --

Dearest Ones, 

When I received the R.R., it was just prior to Wayne's arrival so I thought I'd hurry and get it off before he came. But every day has been so full since, that this is actually the first chance I have had to take a breather. 

After meeting the plane and talking with Wayne and his friend, Philip, Wixoms, Wayne and myself decided to go through the temple that same afternoon (Wednesday) because the friends Philip was staying with were having an open house on Friday for a newly married couple from Georgia. Philip is going to the Philippines. We had to be at the Temple at 4 p.m. and got out around 9 p.m. I was really happy to have the opportunity to go with Wayne. I wanted to go with Brian last year, but my Bishop left town and I was not able to get a recommend. 

Wayne went home that night with Wixoms and stayed until Friday afternoon with them then came over to our place. We had a nice family dinner with Kathy, Gusty, and Angie here also. Then I took Wayne out to the open house for his friends. The next morning I drove Wayne down to the Missionary home at 11:00. We noticed a policeman giving tickets to all the cars parked in front so we went around the corner to the parking lot entrance and the attendant let us in free. We had a struggle making our way through the crowd. There were at least a half dozen people per missionary. When we got inside, we stood in line just like being inducted into the army. After Wayne received his instructions and orientation, we were told that relatives should wait in the assembly hall for the next hour and a half while the new missionaries filled out forms, were assigned to rooms, etc. Afterwards I went to lunch with Wayne and Philip Richins' younger brother, who is going to Thailand. Then I kissed Wayne goodbye until his two month language training at the "Y" is completed and we say goodbye to him at the airport. I am very grateful for the sweet experience and closeness I felt for Wayne during those few days. He has such a sweet spirit about him, that I know he will make a good missionary. Wixoms wanted to go to the home with him, but Wickie's Mom had to look after Carol Gay's children because her oldest daughter is in the hospital undergoing some difficult brain tests (she has been having violent headaches). I am going to call this weekend and find out how she is doing. 

Bea and Ken have filled you in on my most enjoyable visit with them. It was really a thrill for me to ski again, and if I never have another opportunity to do so again, I can have that to remember. Thanks again, Bea and Ray. It's funny how things work out---Marsh was  just down there at Rileys Monday and Monday night and had a nice little visit. I am so sorry, Bea, that it took so long for you to make connections with Marsh. It would have been so much better if he had rented a car. Ken, I hope that we can come down again soon and come over and spend some time with you. I think we will be able to for sure this year. I hope we can get up north also. Keep your fingers crossed. 

Since I was given a new assignment (Cultural Refinement Leader in Relief Society about 6 weeks ago, I haven't had a spare moment. My first lesson was on Japan, and interesting and challenging study. I received so many complements that I guess it went over great. The next lesson will be Canada and I am preparing it like a TV show with all the famous people who have made contributions to Canada. It is really fun to study about the people all over the world. I also have been working on Macramé skills, so I can teach that class ( a Mini-class) for Relief Society. Everyone is crazy to learn how to make the plant hang-ups. With Bea's help and a good book, I think I have it down pat now. The other thing that is keeping me busy, no, is the greenhouse and transplanting all the new little seedlings. Marsh has done most of the work to this point, now it's my turn. 

Love to all, 

Pat

January 31, 1977

Dearest Lu and Wickie, 

The following is an excerpt from the R.R. Letter I just wrote. I decided it would take too long for the information to get around so will include this brief part here:

I have been preparing for Income Tax time and working on getting the affairs of Mother's estate in order. I still owe the lawyer $259.00 (I paid him $350 already before the final bill) so that will take care of the probate. I have worried about this, but just didn't have time to do anything till after Christmas was over. Yesterday I sent off to the Wellington Fund a request to redeem the stock (about $800). I will pay the lawyer and keep out what I paid for the taxes on the property in income tax. The rest will go in the bank to insure that any other expenses will be paid if they come up. After researching and also consulting Dave Bennett who is the Trust Officer for Valley Bank, I am certain that the purpose of the Trust was to take care of Mother while she was alive and to pay all expenses relating to the trust--not to serve as an investment vehicle for the family. So I propose that we sell the property. If any of you wish to buy it, let me know. It doesn't seem logical that we should not divide the balance of the estate, when that is the purpose of the trust. The General Public Utility Stock was 11 when I bought it and is now up to 20--so is worth $1,000. The interest is 8.62%. The property has been appraised at $4.000. So you see divided 6 ways that doesn't amount to an awful lot. Then you would be free to inve4st it any way you choose. I received a letter from the Postmaster in Enterprise wanting to buy part of the property as it adjoins his land and he is using it for feeding space for his cows. He says it is only sand wash and not good for anything else. There are no access roads to it as yet. If you still would rather hang on to it for say, another five years, we could do that, but I would rather not be responsible for what happens to the stock. Dave said that this would be a good time to sell. If all are not in agreement, I will go ahead and do what I think is best. 

I finally got these pictures made for you- If you ever get a chance, Lu-would you make me a copy of Mom's funeral tape? Elsie & John borrowed it because they missed the funeral & when I went over after it, neither of them could remember borrowing it. Anyway I never got it back. That was 3 years ago. I sent the R.R. on- Hope all i well with you and that you are feeling good. 

Love, 

Pat